August

i really don’t like the month of August.

It seems long for the kids needing to go back to school. Kids are fighting more.

This year.....August holds Brens birthday. The day after was mine....plus it has been 6 months....

This year leading up to his birthday sucked. Really sucked. But the day of was pretty ok. On  the backside. My birthday. I didn’t want to celebrate. It seemed pointless. I just wanted to be alone and couldn’t be. I just wanted my son back. Mental health stinks. But it is a nightmare when it ends in suicide.

Yesterday marked 6 months. Our family dynamics currently are complicated. There was only one person who remembered and mentioned it to me..... but it is never far from my mind.

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